There are many reasons why many struggle with talking about therapy. For some, it is self-preservation or pride, which may be a way to take charge of their mental health personally. For others, therapy is deeply private, yet others are afraid of stigma or being misunderstood. And some others simply do not know how to talk about therapy. While all of these considerations are valid, talking about therapy has benefits for anyone with mental health challenges. In this article, we’ll consider the advantages of talking about therapy and tips for navigating those conversations.
Benefits of Talking about Therapy
The truth is, therapy is private, and if you prefer not to, you do not have to talk about it. However, there are times when sharing can help. Let’s take a look at some reasons why you should consider talking about therapy, especially with a loved one.
- Building a support system
When you talk to friends and family about therapy, it can help them understand your situation and offer reliable support.
- Reducing stigma
When people who trust you hear about therapy, it reduces stigma and normalizes seeking help.
- Scheduling and Practical Considerations
You may need to talk about therapy when explaining why you’re unavailable at certain times and wish to reschedule an engagement, or why you’re prioritizing your mental health.
How to Talk about Therapy: A Step-by-Step Guide
Remember, the decision to share is yours. If you do decide to share, here’s a step-by-step guide to help you.
Step 1: Decide what you want to share
When thinking about how to talk about therapy, start by defining your boundaries. Talking about therapy does not mean you have to share your diagnosis, specific struggles, or other private details. Rather, focus on what you want others to know.
You could say:
- “I’ve started therapy as part of my self-care routine.” (subtle and doesn’t give details)
- “I’ve been seeing a therapist to help with my sleep disorder.” (gives only basic information)
- “I’m working with a professional to process some challenges.” (general and doesn’t mention therapy)
Whatever you choose to say, use short and simple sentences. They help keep you in control of the conversation.
Step 2: Choose who you want to share with, where, and when
Know that not everyone will understand, and that’s okay. Still, choose people whom you trust to listen without judgment. This could be a partner, close friend, or family member. As for the place and time, when possible, choose a calm, private setting to have the conversation. This allows both of you to speak freely without distractions or interruptions.
Step 3: Prepare for different reactions
Even well-meaning loved ones can respond awkwardly. You might hear responses like:
- “That’s great. I’m proud of you.” (genuine support)
- “What’s therapy like?” (curiosity)
- “Do you really need that?” (skepticism or defensiveness)
Expecting either of these ahead of time can help you stay grounded. If you get a negative reaction from someone you trust, remember that their reaction says more about their experiences and beliefs than about your decision to seek help.
Step 4: Use natural, everyday language
Avoid using medical terms, especially when discussing with people unfamiliar with therapy. Try using everyday, neutral language. For example –
“I have someone who helps me work through challenges.”
“I’ve been talking with a professional about my mental health.”
“I’m learning strategies to help with managing my emotions.”
This way, therapy, which is just a practical way to take care of yourself, sounds normal (both to you and your listener).
Step 5: Share benefits, not only challenges
Try not to focus only on your struggles, centering the conversation on why you began therapy. Instead, turn your focus on the positive outcomes. This makes it an easier conversation for you to have, and for your listener, it reduces any stigma for therapy.
You could highlight any of the positive outcomes you’ve experienced, such as:
- Clearer communication skills
- Better stress management
- Improved mood and increased energy
- Healthier relationships
Step 6: Keep your boundaries
Maintain the boundaries of what you choose to share when talking about therapy. Some may press for details that you may not be ready to share. Do not feel guilty about keeping your boundaries firm. You could say:
- “Thanks for asking but that aspect is private.”
- “I appreciate your concern. I’ll share more when I’m ready.”
- “I’d rather not get into details but therapy has been helpful.”
Bear in mind that you do not owe anyone details that you are not yet comfortable sharing.
Step 7: Normalize the conversation
Make talking about therapy part of an open, casual conversation. You can mention it in the same way you’d mention getting a checkup or going to the gym. For example:
- “I can’t make it on Wednesday morning. That’s my therapy time.”
- “I was struggling with that, but my therapist suggested a great way to handle it.”
When you treat therapy as a normal part of life, you help others feel comfortable enough to seek help when they need it.
Bottom Line
Talking about therapy may seem challenging, but when you learn to talk to others about it, it isn’t about oversharing your personal life or convincing them to agree with your choices. Instead, learning to talk about therapy permits you to speak about your mental health journey in ways that make you feel safe, authentic, and empowered. Whether you keep the conversation small and private or share more widely, each time you talk about therapy, you help to reduce stigma and contribute to a culture where mental health is valued as much as physical health.
